I know the feeling: that nagging thought that you can’t help but think your home is ugly and doesn’t measure up to other people’s home.
Although I’m a DIY blogger who does home improvement and furniture makeovers (check out my Project Gallery), I suffer from this “My house is ugly” syndrome, too.
In fact, whenever people come over to my home, I find myself apologizing about this project that sits unfinished….or that part of my house that has dirty walls because the kids drag their hands all over it when walking past.
Over the years since moving into our old 1973 home, it has taken a lot of time for me to finally get to the point where I feel comfortable with my home.
I’m comfortable with it because it’s finally started to feel warm and cozy (after years of living here). But I still find myself apologizing and making excuses and pointing out its faults before other people can.
In fact, in one of my YouTube videos, I did a house tour for readers and viewers and I apologized and tried to explain away all the little piles of clutter and the unfinished projects and mismatched furniture.
You can watch that video below.
(Keep reading for 3 tips to help you stop thinking your house is ugly).
It’s Not Just You: Lots of People Think Their Home is Ugly
Years ago I happened to get an email from a girl who stumbled upon one of my old posts and she wrote me something so poignant:
I just came across your blog a few weeks ago, while searching for photos of rooms painted in Rainwashed. I wanted to tell you how much I like your blog. It’s so refreshing to see a diy/decorating blog featuring a normal looking house, lol!
Seriously though! I live in a 1,700 square foot house, that was built in 1926. It’s easy to feel inadequate seeing blogs with 5,000+ square foot, brand new mini mansions, that look like something straight out of Better Homes and Gardens. I’d much rather read about someone fixing up an older, average home, on a budget!
Her email hit a nerve.
I decided to respond to her email and share why we shouldn’t be comparing our home to others’ homes.
There is still some part of me that feels like my home isn’t good enough, especially considering that working on my house as a blogger is my full-time job!
But her email ignited something inside of me--a desire for us all to STOP crapping on our houses and simply love it and decorate it for what it is: our place of comfort!
I was inspired to create that short video to inspire all of you beautiful homeowners who sometimes feel inadequate about your house, too. We are just the same: women are want to create a pretty, comfortable, yet affordable home for ourselves and our family.
(P.S. You can see how I’ve been working on turning my house into a home with these projects:
- BEFORE & AFTER: My Pretty Lavender Master Bathroom Makeover
- BEFORE & AFTER: My Colorful Half Bathroom Makeover With a Wall Stencil!
- BEFORE & AFTER: My Kid’s Bathroom Makeover
- BEFORE & AFTER: Boys Blue Accent Wall Bedroom
- BEFORE & AFTER: My Pretty Laundry Room Makeover
You Do NOT Have an “Ugly” House: 3 Tips to Stop Complaining About Your House
Okay…..but maybe you do have an outdated house and you want to do a makeover. Doesn’t that sound better? More positive?
“Outdated” sounds like something easily fixable.
“Ugly” just sounds….hopeless!
And we’re all doing such great jobs on making our houses look fabulous for very little money (and so little time, too!). So let’s stop comparing ourselves and our homes to people in the blogosphere okay?
Keep reading below for some tips we can do to change our attitude our house!
TIP #1: Be thankful you’ve got housing.
When the wind is whipping and I’m rushing up my walkway to get inside, I’m often struck with the thought, “Thank God I have a house!” More than 500,000 people in the U.S. are homeless, according to this report in 2015. Seriously. Why would we complain when we have money to pay for housing??? Thinking about this alarming fact makes me feel idiotic for even thinking my house is ugly.
TIP #2: Make a plan for decorating your home.
We’re all short on time.
I get it.
But if you plan for the projects and room makeovers you want to do, you’d be surprised how much easier it is to get those projects and makeovers done.
I had put together a free Room Makeover Journal packet that you can download by entering your name and email here:
When you create this DIY journal from scrapbook paper, you’ll have a way to track your progress, list your materials needed, and more.
Soon, your house will feel more put together and not quite as “ugly”!
TIP #3: Take “Before” and “After” pictures of your house along the way.
Homes evolve over time, don’t they?
How your home looked 3 years ago is likely nothing like what it looks like today. Maybe you’ve changed the furniture, had the floors done, changed the paint….
And sometimes we forget the evolution and where we started from!
I can tell you--when we started out in this house, we had wallpaper on nearly every vertical surface…outdated brown paneling…and more.
This is what my family room looked like when we moved in: a dreary 70’s brick fireplace, paneling, and wallpaper over the paneling!
I ended up painting my brick fireplace so that it still looked like brick (which lightened up the room tremendously!), removed the paneling, sewed a pair of cute lined DIY curtains, and decorated the house with affordable thrift store furniture.
Because I took pictures along the way and reviewed those old pictures from time to time, it helps to remind me of how far we’ve come in this house.
Suddenly, it doesn’t seem like such an ugly house. Instead, it feels like a home in transition and it helps me to see that we really have made progress!
So be sure to take lots of pictures of your home and your projects and store them on an external hard drive or on Google Drive (or email them to yourself) and every now and then, click through them to see your progress over time. You’ll be shocked and will feel much less likely to say “My house is ugly.”
Again, I know how easy is to think “My house is ugly!” But the truth is that we’re blessed to have housing…we’re blessed to have affordable options for making it look good without spending a lot of money (check out these thrift store tips), and if we remind ourselves of how far we’ve come, we might even start loving our house. 🙂
So have you ever told yourself “My house is ugly”? How did you learn to start loving your house? Leave a comment and let’s talk about it!
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