This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Awesome at Being Awesome. All opinions are 100% mine.
When I was a kid, I wanted to be a cartoon artist and a writer.
I’d spend hours looking at the Sunday comics copying images of Garfield, Cathy, or browsing my favorite Berenstain Bears books, drawing scenes of my favorite stories.
I knew at a young age I was born to create.
I don’t remember asking myself, “Serena, how are you going to become a cartoon artist and a writer?”
I simply knew that they were the hobbies that gave me hours of enjoyment.
No questions asked.
Soooo….I Became a 4-Year College Graduate
Despite graduating with a BA in Psychology, the allure of creating still burned inside.
In fact, the desire grew stronger as I internally rebelled against cubicle hell.
My saving grace was blogging about becoming a mom and, later, about do-it-yourself projects in our old 1973 home that we bought in 2010.
But it wasn’t until 7 years into blogging that I learned that people actually made money doing this!
(Wait–you mean I can earn an income from doing something I was already doing for free?!)
But by this time, I was institutionalized by the “9-to-5.” How could my little ‘ole blog be enough to support my family? Did I have the skills to blog professionally? Was I smart enough? Was I likeable enough? Creative enough? Popular enough?
I thought everyone else had the “awesome” gene and that it must have skipped my generation.
Losing My Day Job Was the Best Day of My Career
But it wasn’t until I lost my day job after seriously blogging for 3 years that it was sink or swim: I was going to try to turn my part-time blog into a full-time income.
In order to do that, I needed the confidence to know that I am awesome, that I can do this.
I told myself, “This is your life’s purpose. There is no possibility of failure!”
Still, those seedlings of self-doubt continually needed to be de-weeded. It took continual work and encouragement and reminders to keep my thoughts positive and motivated.
And today, after blogging full-time just shy of two years (and earning more than my old day-job), I’m here to tell you that the life you want is achievable with hard work, the right attitude, and consistency.
We usually know what we wanted to be when we were kids, but somewhere along the way, disappointments and “life” clouded our visions. It’s not until we remember how awesome we really are that we’re able to move past the negativity and self-doubt to start creating the life we want!
Awesome at Being Awesome
A couple of weeks ago I read a book called Awesome at Being Awesome, by Danny Pehar. (Consider it like a self-help book for people who hate self-help books).
He talks about this exact phenomenon of feeling like you’ve lost your awesome due to life’s disappointments and how to be awesome once again.
Whether you’re looking for advice on work, eating right, making better decisions, losing weight, improving your communication, managing your money right, this funny and sarcastic pep rally includes practical tips for rediscovering your awesome internal “super hero” that can achieve anything!
I think the book trailer says it perfectly.
Watch it here:
Better Know Your ABCs
But one thing he said brought home the point that anyone can be successful in life if you can just follow the ABC’s of Life:
Attitude – Smart means nothing if your attitude sucks.
Basics – Give people what you promise them when you promise them.
Communication – You must be able to get people to listen to your ideas.
One of the most profound statements that Danny mentions in his book was that he’s often felt very average–never the most popular, never the smartest, never the most creative…”never the greatest at anything.”
(AMEN to that, Danny. I even wrote a post about my struggles with mediocrity on my other blog, Get Your Life Straight, so I know exactly how you have felt).
But by keeping a positive attitude, focusing your attention to often-forgotten basics, and effectively communicating, you will do great things!
Such a powerful message!
Don’t Forget the Basics
I just returned from an amazing conference in San Diego, California called FinCon, which is a financial bloggers conference. I have to admit–out of all the blogging conferences I have attended–FinCon was the best conference ever!
During the conference, the speakers kept hitting upon similar points that Danny makes in Awesome at Being Awesome.
For example, to succeed (especially as a blogger!) people usually think they have to do everything amazingly well, which isn’t true.
As one speaker pointed out in her presentation, which someone in the audience snapped and posted on Instagram, all it takes it doing one thing a million times until you create your success story.
Danny Pehar said something similar that struck the same chord:
“Too many people spend their time worrying about being great at great things and forget about being great at little things–the basics, like showing up on time.” ~Pehar
So imagine focusing on what you’re good at, whether it’s something as simple as having the ability to easily say “hello” to strangers at a conference which ends up as amazing relationships and connections…
…or always being on time so that everyone knows you as the most reliable person to work with…
Just think of the kind of success we would have and how awesome we would think of ourselves, along with everyone else.
I work with RYOBI PowerTools and one thing they have always prided me on is my ability to show up prepared on set when shooting videos.
Am I the best in front of the camera? Maybe not. Although, I am pretty doggone awesome. 😉
But aside from that, I always arrive on set prepared and professional, and focusing on those basics have contributed to my success in working with them!
Your Worse Experiences Are Creating Your Best Stories
One piece of advice I’ve heard over the years in blogging is that the “secret sauce” of making it big in the blogosphere is……YOU.
Honestly, I thought it was a bunch of hogwash.
There had to be a magical blog post formula that I could discover and replicate for instant success.
But it wasn’t like that at all.
Just like how Danny Pehar used his own childhood tales of bullying and hand-me-downs to create this funny self-help book, I have also used my own worse experiences in homeownership to create my best projects and blog posts.
My home and DIY posts didn’t have to be perfect. They just had to be relatable, down-to-earth, valuable, and inspiring.
I discovered that what Pehar says is true: your worse experiences are creating your best stories.
And, thankfully, my readers have enjoyed my stories!
If You Want to Feel Awesome Again
The first step is to decide that you want to be successful in your life–whether it’s in your work, your health, your personal life, your DIY skills–whatever it may be.
The second step is to find resources that will support you.
For me, it’s going to blogging conferences and hearing important messages from successful people. It’s also reading books, such as Awesome at Being Awesome, that have inspired to be awesome and have provided practical tips.
Find a group of supportive friends to help you along the way and that spew positively instead of negatively.
And when still in doubt, pin this post and re-read it again and again as a reminder that what you really want can be achieved.
You just have to regain your awesome.